- He loves someone else.
If you’re wondering why he didn’t text you last night, maybe it’s time you realize that he was actually texting someone else. They were having such a good time that the thought of you didn’t cross his mind. Just the sight of her and the sound of her voice can turn his bad days to good and storms with her were like rainbows with a thousand colors but black. Knowing her was probably the best thing that happened to him and that’s something that maybe you and your best friend cannot accept yet. Don’t believe Amalia when she said this guy is into you. The way he turns his head when you’re talking, the way he smiles when you’re around, the way he waves his hand when you’re leaving, the way he opens the door for you, all these he also does to everyone else. Maybe you mistook his gaze for romance. Maybe you mistook his voice for yearning. Maybe the way your name touches his lips meant nothing but the intention to keep the conversation. Maybe these were all nothing, that they meant nothing. Do yourself a favor and stop hoping that maybe he was conveying something beneath those breaths, those dazzling eyes, those cinnamon hairs. He didn’t confess his feelings not because he was afraid he’d be rejected but because there was absolutely nothing to confess with. No he wasn’t adoring. No he didn’t borrow your notes on special purpose. No he wasn’t surreptitiously glancing. He was actually looking at the girl behind you and now they are building a future together, something that you completely have no part of. And maybe there isn’t a room for you in his life anymore, not for love, or anything else. Not even a parcel of the memories he shared with you he remembered, but everything about her he will remember forever.
- You’re not the one he’s looking for.
This guy’s taste is something you should start lamenting now because my dear, you’re simply not his type. I don’t know what you’re into but he’s surely not into those, too. Don’t cry just because he can’t love the way you are. You should rather smile because you were able to preserve who you are and you never bothered changing yourself just to impress and gain people’s hearts. Maybe he wanted his girls meek and simple. You should start flaunting those confidence now and be proud that you are as complex as any human can be. If you’re into wisdom, bravery, humility, and working your dreams and he’s still not into you, you have all the reason to feel sad for that guy.
- You’re nothing like the other girl.
I can’t believe we’re talking about this. Of course you’re not like the other girl. You’re not her because you’re unique and you transcend genuine love, even risking the possibility of not getting that same love in return. You should be celebrating the fact that there is only one person in this entire world who can truly live life the way you’re living it now. And trying to live someone else’s life should never cross your mind. My dear, you are very precious so don’t let this guy become your world and distract you from who you are. The truth is he is yet to realize how much he lost by losing you.
- He’s looking for something and he didn’t find it in you.
Was it the courage in your eyes or the truth in your voice that tells him you can’t be the one? Was it beauty he was seeking? Or skill? Was it grace? You might realize you have them all and still wonder why he’s still seeking elsewhere. You have to know that giving your all still won’t be enough for anyone who isn’t able to realize your worth. You can never please everyone so stop expecting yourself to. Maybe he finds you insufficient. Well darling, we all are. It’s just a matter of contentment of the heart. If he’s not contented with you, that’s his problem. You have to realize that there is always beauty in insufficiency. What is life without it?
- He can’t stop thinking about her.
This girl definitely had him swept off his feet. The moment she walked in right into his door last Sunday afternoon, he knew he’s never gonna look at love the same way again. Thanks to her gorgeous smile and radiant laugh that warms even the most rainy of days. Those pair of lashes that can a melt a thousand suns and curves that bring shivers down his spine. Even the early morning light cannot come at par with the way his eyes light up whenever he sees her walk her way through the corridor. Those delicate hands that can launch a thousand ships yet a heart that can shatter all dreams. The way she braids her hair as if they were angels in her womb. The gentleness in her voice that ushers him to fight the Russian war, endure an impossible storm, or die an invisible death. And hers is the same voice that can end a war with nothing but a flicker of her laugh. And every day that he thinks of her was every day that he wrestles with burning fire. Life was impossible living without her by his side. She became the world that he’s dreaded he can never overcome. And he knew right away that he was falling fast when he hardly ever falls.
- You are worlds apart.
On the other hand, maybe this guy thinks you’re too out of reach, that he can never fit in to your world, that love is never enough to bridge this world he knows to yours, that the world like his own has no place of existence in yours, that he can’t surmount the universe separating you two. Maybe he decided he can’t love you the same because that same love is the same love that will devour his soul while yearning for you. To him, you were a mountain he cannot climb, a star he cannot reach, an ocean he cannot cross. Maybe unlearning to love you was the best option he had. Because that’s the only way he can save himself from the impending heartbreak he’s getting himself at. He will get it anyway, but he shall not love again. Not the same way he did with you.
- He’s not ready.
You think you know him so well? Think again. This guy is probably going through some things in life and he’s just not ready for anything that would remind him of what love was like. Maybe the connection he feels with you isn’t as powerful as the connection he feels with the life he’s married to. Maybe he values his dreams more than he values the dream of having you. Maybe he cares so much about his career that he couldn’t care less about love. Or maybe you weren’t really part of that dream he was talking about. Maybe he was so in love with the aspect of life that he ended his journey of pursuing his love for you. Maybe you really don’t know anything about this guy and you should start respecting the truth that it’s about time you let him go, that you can’t force anything that doesn’t want to happen.
- He’s scared.
He is not like any guy you’ve met at the local studio. This one is broken. Tired. Maybe at some point in his life, he was shattered beyond his capacity to stand back up. Maybe he used to believe in love so much only to be hurt again the second time. Maybe he was a fighter who could no longer fight, a knight who abandoned the remaining hope in his heart, a dauntless boy who lost the glimmer of love in his eyes. Maybe he needed time. Time to heal all the wounds from a dark past that only he can battle, and to forget the kind of misery that was their love. He is but a victim of life’s atrocities and shameless wraths. He is broken. And for all the time he wasted on other people, he just wants to spend this time alone to himself. He needed to numb himself of the pain, of the scars that will forever be part of him, the scars that proved how tragic his love was once upon a time. But his memory of her keeps haunting him at night. Those bittersweet memories so vivid they almost felt real again. Maybe he’s just too scared to love again. Maybe you’re just gonna leave him the way she did. All he wanted is for the world to know that he’s had enough. That he couldn’t take any more of life’s game and deceipt. So he wants you to take it slow because he knows all too well how things are gonna be like when you don’t. Take it from someone who suffered a lot. He once cared too much. But he knows better now. He walked out of this dark horrid past, and he’d do it again.